Dear Rock Star Blogger
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Dear More Talented, More Popular, More Important Blogger/Author,
Hi. You don’t know me, but it’s not because I haven’t tried to be your friend. I followed you on twitter with great enthusiasm, friended you on Facebook, and was excited at first that you might be able to offer little me some advice or guidance.
I looked up to you because I wanted to be like you. A New York Times bestselling author? Top ad-revenue generating blogger? This is the stuff dreams are made of, so I was thrilled and looking forward to finding a mentor out there in the crowded loneliness of the blogosphere. I know you would like me if you just gave me a chance.
I sent you @ messages on twitter like nobody’s business- trying to get you to pay just the tiniest bit of attention to me. ONE tweet mentioning me, or ONE retweet, I would hope and hope that you’d respond- to being worshiped.
I mean, how hard is being worshiped, really? Long lines at book signings, tons of people waiting to meet you at a blog conference, thousands of @ worship coming your way daily on twitter. Must be nice.
I’ve thought about unfollowing you, not that you’d notice in your tens of thousands/millions of followers, but I keep hoping that one day you’ll say hello. Because it’s us little ‘minions’ out here that buy your books or get you those big advertising dollars on your website and keep you in rock-star status, right? God forbid you come down off that mountain to comment one of our blogs.
I know, I’m just one in a crowd- an overweight, frumpy housewife you’d never even glance at in the grocery store much less send a tweet to. But what if? One day? I DO make my dreams come true and end up with a popular book and lots of followers and ad bucks? Not saying it will happen- just saying we all have dreams, and none of us deserves to have them trampled on by someone who thinks they’re better than we are.
And if one day success did find me? You can be damn sure I wouldn’t forget who put me there. And I’d respond to them on twitter, because it’s supposed to be a conversation, not a fucking First United Church of Blog where we sit around and pray to your almightiness. Anyone who has more than 5,000 followers on twitter and less than 500 they follow? Is asking to be heard, not to listen.
Maybe ‘click unfollow power’ is a good thing, because even though you won’t know, I will.
Sincerely,
marymac
At the risk of sounding like Jerry Springer in his little words of wisdom at the end of his show (wait, am I the only one who watches Springer? Crap. I’m so ghetto.)…I want to thank each and every one of you for coming by to comment. whether you agree with me or not, have 1 reader or 1 million, it doesn’t matter.
At the end of the day, we are all in this blogging thing together (unless you’re just here to stalk me, which is totally cool too and actually kinda turns me on). It’s a community, which I guess was sort of my point initially- we should support and respond to one another to the best of our ability. No one’s perfect, least of all me.
Every day I am thankful that my readers come here to read. I am sorry I get whiny and catty and (insult fave insult here) whatever, but I’m human. And Menopausal, which is frankly scary as shit and doesn’t put me in a unicorny, butterfly-wingy mood sometimes. Like today.
The good news, though, is that I think menopause might be justifiable in court for canine murder.
[...] imagine having nastygrams on a regular basis, or negative posts written about me (however veiled they may be), or being accused of disappointing people, because I don’t have time to respond [...]
This is what I get for waiting so long to read this: I get left out of the drama. As a teeny tiny guppy blogger, it’s easy to feel lost in the shuffle. As a twitterite (twitter socialite), I don’t add everyone back because I don’t know if they are spam or not. If they talk to me on a regular basis, I add ‘em. I get what you are saying, though, and I understand. I think what makes blogging unique is that personal relationship between the blogger and the people reading what the blogger churns out and if you remove that…it’s just another magazine.
I heart you Mary and feel honored that you respond to me.
How do you seem to incite fear and anger in so many of your posts? Seriously dude, you’re like a fucking vampire, all hot and scary, and hot and shit. Maybe I should start being more “catty” that’s what they’re calling you right, so people will actually come to my blog and read it, and then come back. The happily dumb mom shit really isn’t working for me. Thanks for keeping it real.
Dear Mary,
I’ve been @ ing you forever, I follow your blog.. I even have you on my blog roll. I’ve posted on my blog about you, your blog and my desire to be half as cool as you. Hell I’ve even given linky lovin’. I now stock my pantry with slim jims in hopes you’ll accept just ONE of my MANY invites. You move me, you make me want to be a better blogger, You had me at Hello, Douche Bag.. you make me want to SING….
Don’t you want me Mary? Don’t you want me oh ohoh oh? You were bloging on the Eastern Shore when I found you. That much is true. I picked you out.. I stalked your tweets.. and @ ed you, what more can I doooo??? Don’t you want me Mary? Don’t you want me ooooh ooooh?
This musical interlude brought to you by the musical styling of the scales on the back of that guppy fish mentioned above. Oh and I’m confessing her publicly that I have NEVER read Dooce’s blog.. how is that for blasphemy? I will admit to a big time bloggy crush on Redneck Mommy, The Renegade crew, Blogess and YOU. OH and I’m SO gonna ignore you bitches when I break 2,000 followers!
DiPaola Momma you are kinda makin’ us wanna a group thang! Yeah mary is a sexy bitch. You may have to fight us for her…..we like fights
Hey sister I will always stalk you;) You are worth it! We are all moms doing the same hard job day in and day out. All we really want is to be recognized and heard. At the end of the day we are just looking to connect to someone…. anyone…. that GETS us and what we go through. I say anyone who won’t talk to you is not good enough for you.
Love Tawnia
Can I RT DiPaola Momma ? no wait, this isn’t twitter. I’ve think I am suffering from social media delusionary syndrome
Damn work. Look at what it almost made me miss!
A total mistake not to take notice to greatness! But you know “snubness” never does…something blocking their eyesight when they get up there in the clouds!
Friends in low places rock!!!!
And so what if you think it is catty, Marys blog she can write what she wants. I don’t think she did it for anyones approval. Besides who doesn’t like a little controversy.
Jealous hell, I would love that many followers and comments. I even know a few small time bloggers that don’t take the time to reciprocate. I answer as many comments as I can..even my small time blog gets the best of me.
Carry on…xx
Mary, You’re not being catty, petty or anything else, you’re being honest and that IS blogging with integrity! At least that’s what I think. I’ve only just started following your blog and I love it! So keep up the good work and mind the amazing advice of the Bloggess “Stabbing dogs is illegal!” She knows what she speaks of.
I started out with a totally on-topic comment about social media and reciprocity and stuff, but then I read a bunch of other comments that mentioned stabbing dogs and since my dogs are in the title of my blog and all… well… it made me a little nervous… I’ll be back to finish my comment after I go count my dogs and check them for punctures, ok?
OK, well, I’ve commented here before about this topic, and I’ve gotta say again, I feel ya. Again, the blogging world mirrors the real world in the sense that very few women who climb high are willing to sincerely mentor and support women on their journey up. Actually, the mid-level bloggers are just as bad. That’s why I revel in being a bottom fever who jizzes every time I get a comment. I read and write for my own amusement, nothing more. Although yes, a book deal would be awesome, if you ever have one on free shit friday.
Gotta go feed the baby and tend to my husband who was kind enough to have a vasectomy today, but I am going to come back and read every comment on this post!!! bound to be juicy reading
love ya Mary Mac
Oh, honey. I’m probably guilty of that myself, although I do try to respond to most of my tweets/emails/facebook updates.
But yeah, being ignored sucks.
found you over on Champions of Avoiding Housework….. hey with 65 comments i wouldn’t say you were a “little ol blogger” and who needs those snotty biotches anyway!! i would much rather interact with “normal” peolpe like you and me !!!
The hate bashing above is what happens when people read an article and take one sentence and run with it instead of getting the true meaning out of the post. I understand what you are trying to say and I support it and it is clear from the amount of women that came here to support you, that most people do. You rock, your writing rocks and I personally thank you for being the kind of blogger that I have been able to email and ask questions of (even when you had no idea who I was) and you would answer and give advice freely to me. I FIRMLY believe no matter what your following becomes one day, and I expect it to be big, you would still be the same person. So thank you for reminding all of us that no matter how big we might become, we are nothing without the desire in our hearts to give back.
“There’s a place in Hell reserved for women who don’t help other women.” Madeleine Albright.
MaryMac, mate, I would KILL (well, ‘kill’ is such a strong word
) to have your audience, i.e. 20+ comments per post.
You are by no means a small blogger (a Facebook group with over 700 members is no small feat!), and you’ve earned your position. You are only going to get bigger from here on out, no doubt about that.
…And I absolutely appreciate that you’ve given me love since I started reading you; I mean, having you comment on my blog made me feel all queen-like and shit, heh heh.
Holla!
I absolutely agree with you. Not that many people talk to me on twitter but I will answer. Maybe not right at that moment but I will answer. You have to remember who helped you get where you are. Sad how people forget.
As a new follower and a newish blogger myself…. I adore your blog!!!! You have put it out there and I think that there is NOTHING wrong with what you say! A. It is YOUR BLOG!!! YOUR PERSONALITY! YOUR OPINION! You speak what you want and if people dont like it…. have fun with that little box up on the corner
I have never read the D-Blog that everyone has mentioned. From this discussion I ran over and perused it and found it to be boring. I dont quite know what happened but I am glad I never happened upon her blog. You are fantastic!
You should totally unfollow ‘em, girl.