Dear Rock Star Blogger
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Dear More Talented, More Popular, More Important Blogger/Author,
Hi. You don’t know me, but it’s not because I haven’t tried to be your friend. I followed you on twitter with great enthusiasm, friended you on Facebook, and was excited at first that you might be able to offer little me some advice or guidance.
I looked up to you because I wanted to be like you. A New York Times bestselling author? Top ad-revenue generating blogger? This is the stuff dreams are made of, so I was thrilled and looking forward to finding a mentor out there in the crowded loneliness of the blogosphere. I know you would like me if you just gave me a chance.
I sent you @ messages on twitter like nobody’s business- trying to get you to pay just the tiniest bit of attention to me. ONE tweet mentioning me, or ONE retweet, I would hope and hope that you’d respond- to being worshiped.
I mean, how hard is being worshiped, really? Long lines at book signings, tons of people waiting to meet you at a blog conference, thousands of @ worship coming your way daily on twitter. Must be nice.
I’ve thought about unfollowing you, not that you’d notice in your tens of thousands/millions of followers, but I keep hoping that one day you’ll say hello. Because it’s us little ‘minions’ out here that buy your books or get you those big advertising dollars on your website and keep you in rock-star status, right? God forbid you come down off that mountain to comment one of our blogs.
I know, I’m just one in a crowd- an overweight, frumpy housewife you’d never even glance at in the grocery store much less send a tweet to. But what if? One day? I DO make my dreams come true and end up with a popular book and lots of followers and ad bucks? Not saying it will happen- just saying we all have dreams, and none of us deserves to have them trampled on by someone who thinks they’re better than we are.
And if one day success did find me? You can be damn sure I wouldn’t forget who put me there. And I’d respond to them on twitter, because it’s supposed to be a conversation, not a fucking First United Church of Blog where we sit around and pray to your almightiness. Anyone who has more than 5,000 followers on twitter and less than 500 they follow? Is asking to be heard, not to listen.
Maybe ‘click unfollow power’ is a good thing, because even though you won’t know, I will.
Sincerely,
marymac
Oh marymac, you have made me swoon and it’s only 6:24 in the morning! I refuse to follow and/or pay attention to people like that because they have totally and completely forgot why they have the success that they do. I like regular folks who have no live and can talk to me on Twitter all day long, dammit.
Yes! I totally understand. I follow many teams and celebs on Twitter, so those people I don’t expect to answer, ya know? But if someone is starting a conversation then does not participate, what the hell? I mean you were the one who STARTED the dialog…. I also don’t expect NASA to answer me too. Just sayin, they may have more important things to do!
So, if you wanted to go over to my blog (hint hint) and read my post today then you would see that there is a happy little place for you to link to your own post if you have a sweet little letter to share with the world like the one you wrote. I mean, since no one reads my blog anymore not many people will see it, but I’ll know you came and that would make me happy:)!
Amen to that girl. Really that high and mighty to not even acknowledge you with a freakin tweet? The person you are referring to was once in our shoes. It’s a shame they lost sight of that.
I guess they’re busy. I don’t take it personally when someone doesn’t respond to me on Twitter. But I’m glad that I have that voodoo doll. Just saying.
A freakin’ MEN
Amen! I try to follow everyone who follows me. I even use a Twitter service every few weeks just to make sure I didn’t miss anyone. Why wouldn’t I return the favor?
It just shows you how high up in the clouds they really are. We’re good enough to spend money on their books, but not good enough to be listed on their Twitter… UNFOLLOW
Ohhhhh I hear you!! One rockstar blogger magically tweeted the same exact thing I did about two minutes after I tweeted it and it was an obscure comment, nothing typical. Odd huh?
Personally the one I have in mind is too egocentric for me. I unfollowed. Maybe if more people did that they’d get off their thrones?
Hmmm. I don’t think I follow any rock star bloggers…except for you lol…
I hope they get the message. This world is big enough for all us rockstars..yep me too. xx
I’ve had regular old run of the mill bloggers not answer my tweets. Perhaps it’s my breath? I always answer….
While some of these “rock star” bloggers inspired me to start my own blog I’ve stopped reading them now. I was getting tired of throwing up in my mouth every time I read their self absorbed posts. I’m so done.
I am laughing so hard over here. I happen to love Facebook. I’ve joined groups of those who CLAIM to be social media experts. They don’t even both answering me. It’s kind of funny. They’ve done a brilliant job of promoting themselves as experts, but c’mon, what social media expert doesn’t answer?
You rocketh. Fully.
Amen!
The bigger they are the harder they fall **cough** dooce **cough**.
http://www.websavymom.com
So far I only follow a sum total of 12 people, and only 3 of those are bloggers that I like to read. One of them has so many followers, I imagine that anything I might have to say to her would be on about page 20 when she gets online in the morning, so probably just goes under the radar. Although I did die just a little inside when I replied to her more than once and she didn’t respond.
I couldn’t agree more.
I might have been known to do something similar in the past with similar results…but we don’t talk about that time anymore 
For me, the whole purpose of blogging is to have an audience for my work that I can actually interact with. Maybe the closest medium you can get to this kind of immediate feedback is through writing for the stage. I would imagine that with thousands of followers it would be impossible to respond to each one, so I’m not sure I can fault this writer on that. But it would seem then that there could be some way she could at least acknowledge that situation and make an effort to respond to at least a few each week. Since I don’t know who she is or the tone of her writings, I really can’t make a blanket judgment of her motives. I just know that I’m truly grateful and honored when someone responds to my work and I try to return the courtesy.
Look I tried to respond but with the thousands of comments I get each day (make that 20 on a good day) how can I respond to all of you adoring fans? So get off of my back…but please do keep following me
Just kidding. I do respond to all but it takes hella long just to do the 20 or so that I get.
I did put a question out there on Facebook to one of the bigger stars once and she did post an answer within about half an hour.
I try to find new blogs and support them as much as possible and leave the famous ones to their entourages.
With you being a writer perhaps you might like to join my Writer’s Challenge this weekend. The topic this month is “what is your favorite movie and why”. I will set up Mr. Linky (oh how I hate that name) on Friday. Just for fun. No literary agents will be checking it out I am sure.
I’ve unfollowed two such “rock stars”. One (mega, arena-style star, possibly the one you’re absolutely not referring to) nearly immediately after joining twitter, the other (more of a club following) after months of getting the sense that the little people were supposed to care about the drama but not feeling any sense of reciprocity to anyone other than the inner sanctum (not just me).
A third “rock star” (*I’ll* say mega, but *s/he* wouldn’t, maybe big arenas in smaller cities) I will follow to the end of the earth. It’s complicated, but I get the sense s/he still gets what’s what.
A fourth, I *really* *really* want to like me, but I know I have to bide my time and get to him/her through alternate means. I am NOT a stalker!
Obscure enough for you?
I so freaking love you. My husband said the other day, “Do you respond to anyone who comments or tweets or messages or emails you?” And I said, “I try to. Even the crazy ones.” Of course, it’s not hard. Not like I have hundreds of people to correspond with daily. But you know what? If someone likes my writing enough to take the trouble to reach out to me, I think it is the very LEAST I can do to respond.
K
Hmmm.
Okay, how to phrase this. Mary, I think you’re a very gifted writer with a funny bone to match. I haven’t been following your blog long and I already have some ‘favorite posts’. I’ve even gone so far as to read a few to my husband.
In other words, you’re a great read.
So that’s why I wonder why you have to resort to cattiness to bloggers/tweeters who have a billion followers. While I agree I don’t like to follow people who don’t follow me back (and I don’t follow “her”) I am certainly not going to waste any energy begrudging her her success. This isn’t your first snarky post about her. I think any of us would gladly trade places with her, and if we could, I’m sure we wouldn’t do much different than she has. I mean, how the hell could any of us find the time to personally respond to that many followers? While *we* may not like that she won’t (can’t) respond to us, apparently A LOT of other people don’t mind. For her it’s a business – a successful one. Maybe some of us are just… ummm… jealous, perhaps? I don’t know what other motive there could be.
Please get back to what you do best. You’re talented enough that you don’t need to demean others to “look good”. This isn’t 8th grade.
When Oprah featured Dooce on her show, I visited her blog to see what the hype was about- and was thought, what in the world? I came here and stayed. Your blog is candid, funny, warm, and relatable. Hers is crude and silly. I don’t understand why she’s so popular.
I hear ya, sister!
Jane, I dispute your claim. I for one, would NOT trade places with She Whose Name Shall Not Be Mentioned (except once or twice!) I freak when my hits get into double digits.
I have a life and I work a blog into it. I like similar types of blogs. Many are better at it than I and can garner a few pennies for their efforts and that’s fine. When someone has a blog and has to build a life around IT to make a living, I’m out (or just never show up).
I enjoy reading your blog as well. You’re never afraid to be a little controversial. But this post sort of surprised me.
I’m by no means a big name blogger or huge on twitter. But I don’t follow everyone who follows me. My time is precious and I chose to spend it interacting with those people who interest me. There are people that follow me that just aren’t my cup of tea. That’s all there is to it. It has nothing to do with popularity and everything to do with mutual interests.
I also don’t respond to every single tweet or comment I get. I’d love to, but I don’t have that kind of time. That’s my life. The people I do respond to are the ones I recognize who comment on something I’ve said enough times that I start to recognize them. Once I start conversing with them is when I usually will start following someone.
So to be upset because someone who has hundreds of thousands of followers doesn’t respond to you? Seems petty. Perhaps you’re not what she likes to read. Perhaps you don’t share the same brand of humor as her. Just because you choose to follow her doesn’t mean she HAS to love you. Nor would she have the time to spend hours responding to every comment and twitter she gets.
And to expect her to mentor you? Do you know how many people she has following her that would love for that opportunity? I know this is going to sound bitchy, but what makes you so special?
Apply this to ‘real life’ for a second. There are people I’ve met in person that just don’t interest me. I don’t want to be friends with them. And the expectation that just because we’ve spoken once that now we HAVE to be friends is absurd.
Rather than lamenting over the fact that some big name blogger (who’s appeal, I quite frankly have never understood) doesn’t notice you, why not find someone who is willing to mentor you, if that’s what you’re looking for?
To clear things up, I was not at all talking about She We Shall Not Speak Of . And actually Princess Jenn, I don’t happen to think I’m very special at all.
I think I was merely relaying the feeling that many of us as smaller bloggers get when ‘bigger’ bloggers don’t respond to us. Like Harmzie, I had 3-4 people in mind when I wrote this post.
I just feel any writer, no matter what level, should (in just my opinion) try to answer communications. In a few instances, I have been blown off while trying to write an article for an ezine I write for with 20 million readers a month.
So this post absolutely was not written to be directed at any one individual, and certainly not The One who’s been suggested, though I imagine many readers have felt similarly about any number of bloggers/writers.
The “I’m jealous of you know who” (I’ve said this before- anyone who’s not jealous of her is a corpse) argument doesn’t fly in this case, I’m afraid. I was just relaying my feelings on being disappointed by a few bloggers out there- not that I expected them to like or mentor me, just to acknowledge my existence as a reader and fan (and in a few cases, journalist).
Yeah, I admitted up front on twitter that this post is ‘blogging without integrity’ and is catty, and 8th grade, and whatever (petty, what am I missing?), but I write honestly and from the gut, and I think most readers expect that when they come here.
That. Actually,I feel that way about some of the smaller bloggers, too. I am more like a goldfish in the fishtank of bloggers. the kind that you feed to bigger fish. Barely even there. But bloggers like you give me hope. (does that sound as kiss ass as I think it does?)
I have one thing to say to you: Amen, sister. Very well put.
Oh man! This is just how I feel and I actually wrote an email, that was never responded to, that said almost the exact same thing! Creepy. You know what is awesome. I started following someone the other day that has over 7000 people following them, and they followed me back! It’s stuff like that, that gets people to read your blog more and talk about you on their littler blogs in a good way. I was so excited to get followed back that I called my friend, even though she doesn’t twitter and doesn’t care. But I do. It makes my day. It makes anyone’s day to be acknowledged.
I totally get it, being an extremely small blogger in a VERY big blogging pond, and trying to get noticed is like a little person trying to play in the NBA, a lot of jumping and arm waving and getting nowhere.
I don’t expect the big time stars I “stalk” to ever respond to a reply I send, but when BLOGGERS who say that “I’m just like you!” don’t respond I get a little petty and want to be catty. If all you do with your day is sit around on the net, like me, you have time to respond to a couple @ a day. It’s not that tough.
I get you Mary, and this is why I keep coming back to read you, and I love that you tend to blog without integrity!
Years and years ago, when I just started blogging I wrote long fan letters to Natalie Dee. Most people don’t even know who she is but to me she’s a Goddess and I wanted to be just like her. I checked my email every day to see if she’d ever responded and she didn’t. For a bit I was a disappointed that I couldn’t even get a “thanks” back and I got a bit bitter but then I realized I was ruining my love for her work by setting up these expectations I expected her to live by so I gave up on ever having her acknowledge me and went back to loving her from afar. I still do. Two months ago I got an email from her. Several actually. I may have screamed a little. And she remembered my emails because they meant something to her. It made me so glad that I’d chosen to keep on enjoying her for what she puts out to the world rather than what she gives to me personally. And I feel really bad about stabbing her dog. But I did that during the bitter period so I don’t think that counts.
Anyway, my advice to you is not to stab her dog. Because that’s illegal.
Mary, great job, and always rememeber…Joke ‘em if they can’t take a fuck.
I so agree with you. While I don’t follow everyone back on Twitter, I do try to respond to most @replies. Why bother being there if you aren’t interested in chatting? I have unfollowed a couple of people recently who just never respond to direct replies. It wasn’t to be rude or catty or ‘show them’ but they weren’t interested at all, so I moved on.
As far as big bloggers who never visit? I’m torn. If they are great writers and have awesome blogs? Cool. I get it. Writing for ‘art’ or whatever. What baffles me are the ‘big’ bloggers who don’t seem to write about anything else except blogging, blog parties or posting photos of themselves. I can’t help but wonder why they are so popular. Who wants to just talk about blogging see pictures of strangers and their daily outfits?
And being catty? Since when can we not post our opinions on our own blogs? I guess the same goes true for someone having the right to comment that they disagree with it, but why should you censor your thoughts to make everyone else happier when your aren’t being offensive in the first place?
You speak your mind Mary! I love that about you.
And, sure, not everyone will agree, but fuck it. Who cares? As my gran used to say: “Ye’ll be talked aboot a long time after yer deed” .. I assume I don’t have to translate that for you.
I feel dirty. I’m new and naive, and I just realized I gave you exactly what you were looking for: controversy. Why else would you be touting it multiple times in your tweets on Twitter? And now this fan is an “anti”? Ouch.
I’m guessing these types of posts get the most ‘airplay’. You threw out a lair and I fell smack-damn right into it, didn’t I?
Oh well, good luck. I’m out.
I don’t think you’re being catty at all. I do wonder how it could be physically possible to respond to all tweets in a day though – if say… 1000 people sent a message to you within a 24 hour period. Could you even read them all?
I think that’s a dilemma I will probably NEVER have though!
I really just have one question: Let’s say this blogger you’re talking about has 6000 followers and only follows back 500. That would mean you are among 5500 folks that she doesn’t have time for/won’t make time for/whatever it may be.
Are YOU interested in any of your 5499 ignored companions? Are you reading their blogs and trying to get to know them? If YOU aren’t interested in those 5499 bloggers, why should she be?
I’m honestly not trying to be catty here, just making the point that if everyone just tries to get the attention of the big names and never those on a lower rung, none of us are getting out of this what we should, you know?
I don’t read other bloggers or follow them on Twitter in hopes that they will follow me back or read me … I read and follow because I like what they have to say. Big name bloggers owe me exactly as much as anyone else on this earth — which is to say, absolutely nothing.
Oh my gosh everyone just stop it…you HEAR ME!?! Just STOP the hate…
Sigh.
Okay…OKAY…I’ll mentor you.
First the personal emails, then the comments on my blog everyday, then the following me on twitter. Just FINE! Let’s bury the hatchet.
Wow, I didn’t get catty out of this and I know catty. I also didn’t think you were addressing… I’m going to say it… DOOCE! I took it as a general statement to all big busy bloggers (the 3 B’s?) and I totally get what you’re saying. As for me, I don’t give a fuck about big bloggers or getting their attention. I don’t have a lot of time to read blogs but when I do read them I like the ones that are well written and/or REAL and funny and ballsy. Like you. I love you.
Don’t take any of it personally. Except the love. And the advice not to kill dogs.
~RM2
First, wonderful post. You do write very well. I think as far as a catty post, your blog is about you and you should hash out whatever is on your mind.
As far as rock stardom, it’s easier to see things from the lesser side. Now, I have no clue as to what blogger your referring to. But not all bloggers really want to reach a level of stardom to a point where they can’t go to any event without being swamped by people who want a picture with them to raise their own personal status. Alot of bloggers really just start out wanting to write. The rest comes over time. I have heard horror stories of women who reach a celebrity status that no blogger, in my humble opinion, should ever reach. They do want to have close ties with their followers but some followers make it difficult to trust others after a certain point. You start to wonder if people really appreciate you or if they just want to get on your good side, use you, and reach a popular status through you. Everything you end up saying is tweeted about in a negative way. And it’s something that bloggers just don’t see coming. I personally question every possibility that comes my way because I don’t want to reach a status where it takes 8 hours to reply to every person who tweets me or comments on a blg post.
When it comes to twitter, I live by the motto of not following people who have thousands of followers and follow thousands themselves. It’s impossible to engage with that many people without spending an entire day online. Of course I am speaking from the position of a working mom who blogs with two sites.
I see that you have some wonderful people who follow you on twitter and read your blog. Keep that wonderful relationship going and don’t necessarily strive for rock stardom. Honestly, you might reach it and find out it’s not great at all. As far as I can see, your a rockstar already in the eyes of people who already have a relationship with you! It’s not quantity but quality!
Some of the people criticizing this post are acting as if it says that every ‘rock star blogger’ should follow back every single one of their twitter followers, answer every single @reply and every email, reply to every single comment on every post on their blog, give free advice all day long to every single person who asks, etc. But it really doesn’t. The point is just that the big time bloggers shouldn’t forget to, or act like they’re too famous to continue to interact as much as they can with the blogging community that made them a rock star in the first place.
I didn’t think Dooce when I read this. This could have been about Bossy with her 2000 followers and her not following anyone. Those who have risen to the top, seem to forget who put them there. I have to say the bloggess is gracious and still communicates with her readers, case in point. Those sitting on their high horses could take a lesson from her.
You have the right to say how you feel about other bloggers. Dear god some of you are so pious you act like these people are Jesus and we’re not supposed to speak against them. They’re people.
I totally get that this isn’t about just one person. It’s a trend, sadly. There are several bloggers who have achieved rock star status in the time that I have been reading them, and suddenly, it seems they feel like they are in a club that excludes the rest of us. You know, the readers who gave them all that traffic. Who they used to email or tweet with, but now, are not part of the VIP club.
Evil Slut Clique said it perfectly in her last sentence.
I’m totally going to @ you to death when you are a rock star.
JMHO:
How many hours in a day are there?
While I *try* to respond to comments and @’s, I know I miss some. Because I have other things on my plate, and frankly, sometimes these other things are more important than people I’ve never met in-real-life, or haven’t yet forged a bond with.
And I? Am more or less a blogging nobody.
So if I don’t *always* have time now, what would that be like if the number of comments/@’s was 10x greater?? Eek. Almost makes me want to close down the ol’ blog at the thought of it!
I’m not invalidating your feelings here, I think everyone feels like that at some point. I’m just saying that next time, you might want to step back and consider it from the other person’s point of view, probably before hitting publish.
B/c honestly? This post causes you to come across as somewhat petty. And that’s not exactly endearing! lol
Take care,
Jen
Miss Mary you know we love you and smokin’ with ya behind the 7-11. I think you raise a good point. I don’t think that those mega-blogging-queens are expected to answer every tweet or every email. I also don’t think that is what you are saying. However, I do think that there some of those who shall not be named…cough…Dooce…cough…who make it a habit and a practice to not answer ANYONE. Even if she spent 5 minutes of her precious time a day going on her twatter and chose a few people a day that would show some sort of appreciation for those who made her who she is that would be at least a half-ass effort. The truth she does not. The only effort she expends is to bully and to bitch about how “hard” her loife is. Boo Fuckin Hoo.
We make a point of replying to tweets and comments. We created the Renegade Moms Social Club (before Dooce did her community so down sheep down!) We develop relationships with other bloggers like yourself because the truth is we actually give a shit.
Someday we may be famous with you Miss Mac and you know what the difference between you, us and her Mighty Doochiness is? You, like us, will continue to actually give a shit about other people, the world outside of your own blog and your fans will actually mean something to you. Maybe Renegade Moms and Mary Mac won’t be able to talk to every single person but we will always talk to as many as we can a few times a day because we will always give a shit. We have RMSC specifically to have interaction with our readers and for them to be able to interact with eachother as well.
What is the point of the Dooce Community when all they do is talk about shampoo, their sponsor and worship Dooce. Where in that community is Dooce talking to or with her fans? Where is she asking them anything? She started a “community” that she doesn’t participate in. Why? Duh. To be adored some more, not to have any sort of dialog. You, Miss Mary dialog with people. You care. That is why you are good at what you do and that is why She is tired, old and boring. Her Dooce days are numbered and she knows it. She knows damn good and well that there are TONS of blogging queens out there who are much better writers and better community builders….. mainly because they are not self absorbed cyber-monsters.
You keep on doing you Mary and we are glad to have met you. See you behind the 7-11 after class. It’s your turn to bring the smokes.
~RM1
I’m still bitter about trying to befriend a blogger when I started out. She totally snubbed me. I even met her in real life and she snubbed me then as well.
I keep a journal about it and sleep with a voodoo doll in her image.
What? Is that not normal???
oh yeah I am with my renegade Partner and Jenny: stabbing dogs is a bad idea!
~RM1
I thought this was dead-on and not petty/catty/etc. I don’t get the folks who are offended by it. Geez, folks, relax!
so powerful!!! yeah baby!
DAMN THE MAN! SAVE THE EMPIRE!
you are on a roll with this posting everyday thing!!!
i love you.
that’s all.
this post.
amen.
At the risk of sounding like Jerry Springer in his little words of wisdom at the end of his show (wait, am I the only one who watches Springer? Crap. I’m so ghetto.)…I want to thank each and every one of you for coming by to comment. whether you agree with me or not, have 1 reader or 1 million, it doesn’t matter.
At the end of the day, we are all in this blogging thing together (unless you’re just here to stalk me, which is totally cool too and actually kinda turns me on). It’s a community, which I guess was sort of my point initially- we should support and respond to one another to the best of our ability. No one’s perfect, least of all me.
Every day I am thankful that my readers come here to read. I am sorry I get whiny and catty and (insult fave insult here) whatever, but I’m human. And Menopausal, which is frankly scary as shit and doesn’t put me in a unicorny, butterfly-wingy mood sometimes. Like today.
The good news, though, is that I think menopause might be justifiable in court for canine murder.
[...] imagine having nastygrams on a regular basis, or negative posts written about me (however veiled they may be), or being accused of disappointing people, because I don’t have time to respond [...]
This is what I get for waiting so long to read this: I get left out of the drama. As a teeny tiny guppy blogger, it’s easy to feel lost in the shuffle. As a twitterite (twitter socialite), I don’t add everyone back because I don’t know if they are spam or not. If they talk to me on a regular basis, I add ‘em. I get what you are saying, though, and I understand. I think what makes blogging unique is that personal relationship between the blogger and the people reading what the blogger churns out and if you remove that…it’s just another magazine.
I agree with your point about personal relationships. And I love the word ‘twitterites!’
I heart you Mary and feel honored that you respond to me.
How do you seem to incite fear and anger in so many of your posts? Seriously dude, you’re like a fucking vampire, all hot and scary, and hot and shit. Maybe I should start being more “catty” that’s what they’re calling you right, so people will actually come to my blog and read it, and then come back. The happily dumb mom shit really isn’t working for me. Thanks for keeping it real.
And thanks for the double ‘hots’
Dear Mary,
I’ve been @ ing you forever, I follow your blog.. I even have you on my blog roll. I’ve posted on my blog about you, your blog and my desire to be half as cool as you. Hell I’ve even given linky lovin’. I now stock my pantry with slim jims in hopes you’ll accept just ONE of my MANY invites. You move me, you make me want to be a better blogger, You had me at Hello, Douche Bag.. you make me want to SING….
Don’t you want me Mary? Don’t you want me oh ohoh oh? You were bloging on the Eastern Shore when I found you. That much is true. I picked you out.. I stalked your tweets.. and @ ed you, what more can I doooo??? Don’t you want me Mary? Don’t you want me ooooh ooooh?
This musical interlude brought to you by the musical styling of the scales on the back of that guppy fish mentioned above. Oh and I’m confessing her publicly that I have NEVER read Dooce’s blog.. how is that for blasphemy? I will admit to a big time bloggy crush on Redneck Mommy, The Renegade crew, Blogess and YOU. OH and I’m SO gonna ignore you bitches when I break 2,000 followers!
I love you. That is all.
DiPaola Momma you are kinda makin’ us wanna a group thang! Yeah mary is a sexy bitch. You may have to fight us for her…..we like fights
That sounds totally hot, Renegade Moms. You know I’m in!
Hey sister I will always stalk you;) You are worth it! We are all moms doing the same hard job day in and day out. All we really want is to be recognized and heard. At the end of the day we are just looking to connect to someone…. anyone…. that GETS us and what we go through. I say anyone who won’t talk to you is not good enough for you.
Love Tawnia
Can I RT DiPaola Momma ? no wait, this isn’t twitter. I’ve think I am suffering from social media delusionary syndrome
The internet needs to make it so that we can RT EVERYTHING even parts of conversations. We need like a twitter chip in our brains!
Damn work. Look at what it almost made me miss!
A total mistake not to take notice to greatness! But you know “snubness” never does…something blocking their eyesight when they get up there in the clouds!
Friends in low places rock!!!!
Friends in low places are the only kind to have.
And so what if you think it is catty, Marys blog she can write what she wants. I don’t think she did it for anyones approval. Besides who doesn’t like a little controversy.
Jealous hell, I would love that many followers and comments. I even know a few small time bloggers that don’t take the time to reciprocate. I answer as many comments as I can..even my small time blog gets the best of me.
Carry on…xx
Mary, You’re not being catty, petty or anything else, you’re being honest and that IS blogging with integrity! At least that’s what I think. I’ve only just started following your blog and I love it! So keep up the good work and mind the amazing advice of the Bloggess “Stabbing dogs is illegal!” She knows what she speaks of.
I started out with a totally on-topic comment about social media and reciprocity and stuff, but then I read a bunch of other comments that mentioned stabbing dogs and since my dogs are in the title of my blog and all… well… it made me a little nervous… I’ll be back to finish my comment after I go count my dogs and check them for punctures, ok?
OK, well, I’ve commented here before about this topic, and I’ve gotta say again, I feel ya. Again, the blogging world mirrors the real world in the sense that very few women who climb high are willing to sincerely mentor and support women on their journey up. Actually, the mid-level bloggers are just as bad. That’s why I revel in being a bottom fever who jizzes every time I get a comment. I read and write for my own amusement, nothing more. Although yes, a book deal would be awesome, if you ever have one on free shit friday.
Gotta go feed the baby and tend to my husband who was kind enough to have a vasectomy today, but I am going to come back and read every comment on this post!!! bound to be juicy reading
love ya Mary Mac
Oh, honey. I’m probably guilty of that myself, although I do try to respond to most of my tweets/emails/facebook updates.
But yeah, being ignored sucks.
found you over on Champions of Avoiding Housework….. hey with 65 comments i wouldn’t say you were a “little ol blogger” and who needs those snotty biotches anyway!! i would much rather interact with “normal” peolpe like you and me !!!
The hate bashing above is what happens when people read an article and take one sentence and run with it instead of getting the true meaning out of the post. I understand what you are trying to say and I support it and it is clear from the amount of women that came here to support you, that most people do. You rock, your writing rocks and I personally thank you for being the kind of blogger that I have been able to email and ask questions of (even when you had no idea who I was) and you would answer and give advice freely to me. I FIRMLY believe no matter what your following becomes one day, and I expect it to be big, you would still be the same person. So thank you for reminding all of us that no matter how big we might become, we are nothing without the desire in our hearts to give back.
“There’s a place in Hell reserved for women who don’t help other women.” Madeleine Albright.
MaryMac, mate, I would KILL (well, ‘kill’ is such a strong word
) to have your audience, i.e. 20+ comments per post.
You are by no means a small blogger (a Facebook group with over 700 members is no small feat!), and you’ve earned your position. You are only going to get bigger from here on out, no doubt about that.
…And I absolutely appreciate that you’ve given me love since I started reading you; I mean, having you comment on my blog made me feel all queen-like and shit, heh heh.
Holla!
I just love you calling me ‘mate.’ It’s hot.
I absolutely agree with you. Not that many people talk to me on twitter but I will answer. Maybe not right at that moment but I will answer. You have to remember who helped you get where you are. Sad how people forget.
As a new follower and a newish blogger myself…. I adore your blog!!!! You have put it out there and I think that there is NOTHING wrong with what you say! A. It is YOUR BLOG!!! YOUR PERSONALITY! YOUR OPINION! You speak what you want and if people dont like it…. have fun with that little box up on the corner
I have never read the D-Blog that everyone has mentioned. From this discussion I ran over and perused it and found it to be boring. I dont quite know what happened but I am glad I never happened upon her blog. You are fantastic!
You should totally unfollow ‘em, girl.
Don’t be sorry about whiney/catty…that’s part of what makes you hilarious. I’ve so followed those bloggers. Whatever, they don’t need me and I’m better off without them.
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Okay maybe its my pathological apathy or the one too many breakfast margaritas, but I find it bizarre how worked up people can get about a post. You’d think that you had just admitted to sacrificing small furry animals to Beelzebub or something. Some people live with blinkers on and can’t stand anything real or imagined that threatens their opinions. What ever happened to changing the channel if you don’t like it or perhaps having a constructive debate or, I don’t know, get a life.
PS I may be living under a rock but who is Dooce???
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Note to self: stop sacrificing small furry animals to Beezlebub. It is NOT COOL OR FUNNY.
OMG, I love you.
I think that I actually know how you feel.
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I did unfollow them and then the sun came out.
BRAVO! (rushes off to Twitter to be sure @thenextmartha didn’t unfollow @marymac)
When I first started blogging, I was like that…in awe of the “popular crowd”, wanted to be like them, have numbers like them, have them notice me, etc.
Now? I could care less. I almost never check my numbers. the weird thing is that they are the highest they’ve ever been. Awhile ago a big important newspaper picked up on my blog and interviewed me and suddenly…WHAMMO. Traffic like crazy, and more people than I’d ever seen suddenly following me, sending me @ messages via Twitter, e-mail, radio stations calling, and people coming out of the woodwork like CRAZY.
I was terrified. Mostly because while I wanted to respond to everyone, I just couldn’t. I have a life-a family, house, 2 jobs, and just don’t have the time to respond to everyone, even though I’d love to. I do the best I can but if I don’t pay enough attention to someone and they unfollow me…I guess that’s their issue.
Sometimes I don’t think it’s all about being a snob. Even though I’m not popular, and it was just one article, I had a taste of what it feels like when everyone wants a piece of you, and it’s sort of daunting. And uncomfortable.
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I agree with you. I wrote this post back in November and now? Now, I could care less- i don’t even check my stats. I just write, and I’m thankful for anyone who stops by to read. Thank you for doing so!
Unfollow ‘em,girlfriend.
I’ve met some very wonderful, published bloggers out there, who have been kind enough to respond one on one.
(Alice Bradley, is one..)